Friday, October 17, 2014

Friday Funsie

"Mom, whip me up some muffins for breakfast!"

Someone has discovered that he can open up the cabinets :)

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

11 Months

Wow...11 months is already here...

UnOfficial Stats:
Height: at least 30 inches
Weight: probably 23 pounds

He slurps down his bottles like a champ.  No more b-milk for him- sorry buddy! But he's enjoying some finger foods in addition to his pureed fruits and veggies.  He makes a mess, but likes Puffs and bananas. It's a good thing we go straight from dinner to the bath! We are still doing the dream feed around 9pm.
He likes to play with his bottle, which usually ends with me wrestling it away from him.


"Mom it's hard to eat them when they stick my big mitts!"

He takes 2 solid naps during the day, but he's totally refused to take his late afternoon snooze (around 4), which makes for a loooong afternoon when he wakes up at 1pm.  But he usually goes down without a fuss at 6pm and sleeps until 6am.  He's an early riser like his Mama :)
He has propped his feet up on the bumper :)

This boy knows how to relax

He cracks me up with his rump in the air!

Other Tidbits
He's starting to stand up on his back legs.  It's hilarious.  He doesn't pull up yet, but he will go from a sitting position to a "downward dog" yoga pose.  I'm sure pulling up is soon to come.

He still picks out his books to read.  He even gets a little bossy as he tosses them in my lap.  We read books a lot throughout the day and especially before naps.
He's still a big fan of lift-the-flap books

Hop on Pop is one of his favorites

The cover of this book often captures his attention

Ok, is he not the cutest?!

Doing some morning Bible reading :)

Now that it's fall we usually go on afternoon walks with Ruby around the neighborhood.  He likes to carry a water bottle.  It's pretty cute.
The water bottle had already been pitched over the side :)
He loves the magnets on the fridge.  He will slide them off and immediately chew on them.

He is amazed by the door-stoppers around the house.

His two little teeth on top are sloowly making their way down.  They remind me of hippo teeth with their big gaps.

His love for Ruby and dogs continues to grow.
Kisses for Ruby
He kept looking at his sleeves going "D-dog  d-dog" 

 Here are some other random pictures from the past month:
Smiley bug

He loves to make his car fly :)

I love his sweet chubby baby face

Chatting with Daddy

These two are trouble!

What's this?

He wants to help with some DIY projects

 He's my favorite little guy.

Sunday, September 21, 2014

Boys Should be Boys: Part 3

Chapter 3 Bullfrogs and Race Cars

This chapter is all about how nature and risk taking are essential parts of boyhood.  But I know that nature is special to girls as well.  I remember with great fondness heading out to my grandfather's farm on Saturdays with my Dad to walk the trails in the woods, fish in the small pond, and ride four wheelers with my sister.  Lots of fun (and even some scary memories) were made on that farm.  I pray Henrik has a special place like that one day.

"...boyhood is meant to be lived between a boy's imagination and his feet.  He needs to move his feet in order to keep up with his sense of wonder. That is why boys are so physical, so rough.  Life is a continual experiment to see what can happen if..."

{Talking in reference to boys building forts/castles etc}
"But whatever adventures they dreamed there, the place was always theirs- and that sense of ownership and privacy is important to boys.  The fact that boys like to isolate themselves from girls, or even, when they're playing, from their parents, is not unhealthy or antisocial or dangerous. Boys like to be in charge among their peers; they like to be free to let their thoughts and their games run wild- and being outdoors lets them do that..."

"Boys need forts to play in and asphalt for street hockey games (Todd says, "Amen.") with their buddies.  It's in those places that they learn confidence and decision making.  It's playing in forts and pickup, sandlot football games that boys find a healthy venue for growing into men.  Boys actually thrive more then they're not forced into organized activities- or shuttled from one organized sport to another- but when they organize games and adventures and projects on their own, when they're outside with their buddies."

There are boys on our street, two sets of brothers ranging from 7-9 years old, who have become friends and who are always playing out in the street. It makes me smile when I see them playing hide and go seek or trying to out jump each other on their scooters.

"They need that time on the fort and in the sandlot to mix it up with their peers, with kids from different grades, to feel what it's like to be the runt...and to grow into a leader..."

"When adults supervise and set the rules for every outdoor game, boys don't learn how to assert themselves in their unique, individual ways...When boys plan in organized sports they always play with boys their own age, when what young boys need- and what they can get when they play on their own in the neighborhood- is a mixture of older boys and younger boys. When the parents run the show, no one can be king; no one can be the ball boy; no one can be the ghost runner between the bases. We all, as parents, want our son to be the pitcher, but that isn't real life. A boy who begins on top and who stay on stop because a parent is always two steps ahead of him clearing his way and talking to coaches (or being the coach) robs him of opportunities to navigate his own way- to take some bumps and learn to get back up again."

"Nature is where boys of all ages, grown men included, can enter and be challenged, where their wits can be sharpened, where they can learn about themselves and about life."

"Boys need to get their hands dirty and try to knock life around or at least pretend to knock it around."

"...boys look for outlets to define their power."

"When he wants to take risks, don't crtiticize him, but instead of letting him drive like a madman, pay for him to go parachuting a few times. Let him feel the thrill but rechannel it into an activity that feels risky to him, but in reality is a lot safer."

Hmmmm....I never considered parachuting safe.... :) 

"It is extremely important for young men to learn the limits of their power. It's a challenge they feel bound to confront, and it's why they climb mountains, race cars, and wrestle. It is about understanding what they have inside and how far they can take it.  It's when they hit the wall that humility begins to set it."

"Boys need to serve; it is good for them; it directs their energies and helps them define the useful purposes of power; it tempers power with responsibility. They need to find a widow who needs her yard mowed...such service is one of the best ways to keep teenagers from feeling separated and isolated...It will help him to recognize how valuable his gifts are and that all people, including the people who need his help, are valuable."

Here's a picture of our Little Man exploring nature in our front yard. 


Friday, September 19, 2014

Friday Funsie

 A little glimpse into our everyday life

Friday, September 12, 2014

Friday Funsie

My wild and crazy little guy

Monday, September 8, 2014

Boys Should be Boys: Part 2

Chapter 2: Bucking Peer Pressure 

"In my experience, every good parent intuitively knows what is good and not good for his sons.  The problem is, we ignore our intuitions and jump non the train loaded with mother and fathers pushing their sons to outshine the others. Get off of that train."

"Parents consistently lament that sons won't listen and behave. Their discipline falls on deaf ears and stony hearts. Well, there is a secret to disciplining boys. Boys will do virtually anything their father wants them to do.  Even at three years old, every boy wants to feel loved, accepted, and valued.  The quickest way he knows to get there is by seeing mom or dad happy with him."

"Sons listen to people (parents) whom they respect, like, admire, or fear (in a healthy way).  They reject words from adults who only criticize, deride or push them."

Hmmm...sounds like the verse, "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord." Ephesians 6:4 and "Fathers do not provoke your children lest they become discouraged." Colossians 3:21
This is a good reminder too!

"Time, attention, affection, and approval: they are what every boy needs in abundance from his parents. I can guarantee that if the majority of parent-son interactions are focused around these four things, then correction and discipline will work when they are required.  Sons try to please their parents when they know they can please their parents. Without balancing love and discipline, boys are lost." 

"Television is a dumping ground where callous advertisers and pop culture pimps pour out their trash, hoping your son will find a few pieces appetizing...When it comes to television and computers and phones, you need to be a dilligent and fastidious filter for him. You need to set ground rules.  Keep televisions and computers out of his room; they need to be used communally, for the family; that's safer. There are many influences you can't prevent, but what comes into your home you most certainly can." 

"To a very large degree, this boy-hating-his parents phenomenon has been contrived by popular media with the aid of some psychologists. Sadly, many of us simply hold our breath until we sense the first snarls, the back talk, and the rejection from our boys...But boys don't naturally hate their parents at six or at sixteen.  Certainly as he matures he will desire more independence, but obnoxious behavior or rebellion is not natural or healthy." 


"Part of the problem, again, comes from popular culture, where rude sons and stupid fathers are a rule of almost every sitcom..."

"As parents we need to recognize that in this regard popular culture is our enemy; it's competing for our sons, and it's up to us to defeat it...Don't abdicate your authority. Don't become the cool, stupid dad you think he wants, because he doesn't - and once you cross that line, it's hard to step back. Every boy hates it when his father becomes funny, dumb, or acts too much like his adolescent peers. He wants to respect  you - and that means looking up to you." 

This is such an easy trap for parents to fall into.  I'm so thankful that my parents didn't try to be "cool" but remained "the parents" and I'm so much better off today because they did! 

"You might have seen young boys, even toddlers, say rude things to their parents and been appalled- perhaps a third grader yelling at his father.  And what did the father do? Did he shrug his shoulders or pretend to ignore the child? Most likely he did. And if he did, it's because our perspectives regarding normal child-parent behaviors have been reworked. Our media has normalized aberrant behavior for so long that we have come to live with it.  But we shouldn't.  And the way to stop it is not only to limit your child's exposure to the media waste bin, but to always make sure your son knows that your his ally." 

As a teacher, I've seen parents who have been verbally abused  and walked on by their children.  The roles of parent-child are reversed and it's a terrifying thing to behold. It's shocking and makes your stomach fall to your feet. 

"Deep down he knows that life is not supposed to be this way.  He knows that his mother is the person who cares about him more than anyone else in the world, that is father is what a man should be, and that he himslef should be a young man of character and moral strength."  

Friday, September 5, 2014

Friday Funsie

Rolling around on the bed + runny nose (thanks to teething) = awesome hair